While the origin and history of the handfasting ceremony is unclear and often fraught with dubious claims, the first known references appear in 16th century Scotland. What is clear is that the Scots & Irish settlers brought this ceremony, as well as many other enduring customs, superstitions and traditions to the mountains of Appalachia.
Inspiring the term tying the knot, a handfasting consisted of the tying together of a couple’s hands with cords or ribbons, indicating their intention to be married. It was much the way we think of engagements today. As a matter of practicality, if not always romantically driven, the handfasting allowed couples to try on the marriage, for a year and a day. If things went well, they stayed united, retaining the option to untie the cords if they found they were incompatible. Handfastings also had the benefit of discouraging other potential suitors from absconding with a bride.
A lovely ceremony in which a cord or cords are draped over and tied (gently) around a couple’s clasped hands, the handfasting has gained tremendous popularity in recent years. In our handfasting ceremony, we join the tied knots of the cords with a series of questions for the couple, often including similar questions for their gathered family and friends. The handfasting easily accompanies the familiar exchange of rings and vows, making for a beautiful (and not too lengthy) addition to any ceremony.
This old tradition is gaining in popularity for its rich symbolism and down to earth realism. Found in a myriad of cultures, this rich and meaningful ceremony’s spiritual depth make it appropriate to use with all faith traditions and is perfect for both interfaith and secular ceremonies.
This ceremony is a wonderful way to include children and other family members in your ceremony and is legal as long as you have a marriage license.
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